In honor of Mother’s Day on Sunday, I wanted to share the stories of three women who have each become “mothers” and how they all reached that role in different ways. These women are amazing and inspiring, to say the least. Charle, shared her story of infertility, Maggie shared her story of being a mother to those around her. I am so grateful these women were willing to share such personal and sacred feelings with everyone in hopes of being a resource to those that may be going through the same things. Today, my wonderful sister-in-law shares her adoption story. I love this family so much and am so happy to have Austin in our lives.
“Every time I look at Austin, I see so much of you in him… and it makes me happy to know that not only do I have him in my life but that I also have you”
Most mothers would write this to their husbands on Father’s day. I have the privilege of writing this to our amazing birthmother. Three years ago, our son Austin’s birthmother chose Devin and I to be Austin’s parents through adoption. Through the blessing of adoption, I am a mother and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I always dreamed of being a mother. When Devin and I were married after our sophomore year of college, Devin would talk of his “three-year” plan meaning that he wanted to wait three years before we had children. I had different plans and encouraged us to have children sooner. Heavenly Father, being the all-knowing, loving Father that he is had different plans. After 7 years of struggle, fertility tests and being treated as mini-science projects, we decided one fast Sunday to ask the Lord what his plan was for us to have children. Immediately, we both had the same feeling – ADOPTION! We immediately responded to the Lord’s promptings and embarked on the most spiritual, fulfilling journey. We have been inspired by the couples who chose adoption, but even more, we have been inspired and uplifted by the stories of birthmothers, including Austin’s.
Two years later, Devin and I were watching TV one night when we received a text from a family friend. I knew she was considering adoption and so when I saw the text was from her my heart started racing, then I got nervous, you know how a potential mother gets nervous just before she takes a pregnancy test. Austin’s birthmother and I exchanged a long line of texts that night… of course we have them all saved up. Just reading those texts brings me back to the excitement and spiritual peace I felt that night. During the pregnancy, our birthmother was so sweet as she included us in the pregnancy. As I thought about what I would like to express about becoming a mother, this letter I wrote to Austin kept coming to mind.
“My Dear Sweet Austin,
I have loved you from the minute I desired to have children; I just didn’t fully understand how much I loved you yet. I felt the spirit so strongly the first moment I spoke with your birthmom. I fell in love with you the first second I saw your little body in the ultrasound. You were so perfect! I cried tears of joy that you were healthy and the spirit confirmed to me once more that you were meant to be part of our eternal family. Your birthmom cried sweet tears and I could feel her love for you as we hugged and cried together, she loved you from that moment as well and knew that she was carrying a special child and expressed to us that she felt that you were meant to be our baby. I loved looking at your ultrasound pictures and couldn’t put them down… that is when the addiction began. My love for you continued to grow as I would think about you and wonder what you would be like as I got things ready for your nursery. On the day you were born your daddy and I sat anxiously awaiting your arrival, we couldn’t wait to meet you and be with you, to hold you, to love you, to start our life with you. The instant I saw you in the delivery room my understanding of love changed significantly. I didn’t know I could love someone as much as I loved you as I held you in my arms for the first time. From that time on my love for you has only grown stronger every day I can’t believe I could love you more than I did at that very second and then I love you more. …
I love seeing you smile and enjoy snuggling with you. You have such a sweet temperament and are always happy. Not a day goes by that I don’t say to your dad “I am in love with Austin” “How did we get so lucky?” “I can’t get over him, I am addicted” and “He is the cutest happiest baby EVER!” I am so grateful and privileged to be your mom. I still wonder how I got so lucky to be your mom. I am excited to spend my life with you to raise you teach you and love you. I can’t wait to create memories and have fun times with you watching you grow and learn new things every day. Your dad is a truly amazing daddy and I am honored to share the experience of raising you with him. “
I imagine most mother’s have a similar experience with their newborn baby. I consider myself fortunate to have that experience since with adoption I didn’t know what type of “pregnancy” and “birth” experiences I would have on my way to becoming a mom.
I am blessed to be a mother. I am blessed to have a spiritual, special friendship bond with my son’s birthmother.
So this mother’s day, I am equally blessed to be a mother and to be able to appreciate our son’s birthmother. My husband and I are trying to adopt another baby. We ask you to keep us in your thoughts and prayers and if you hear of adoption opportunities please keep us in mind. You can reach us through our adoption profile (https://itsaboutlove.org/ial/profiles/27005713/ourMessage.jsf) or directly at facebook (https://www.facebook.com/lynette.c.bird?fref=ts) or email (email@example.com).
Also, please pray for and support birthmothers who have already placed a baby for adoption and potential birthmothers and their families as they consider adoption. They are a special kind of mother and deserve our love and support on this and every Mother’s day.